When we begin to see the best in ourselves, something quiet but powerful happens. We soften. We stop struggling quite so hard. We become more curious than judgemental.
And what is even more interesting is what happens in our relationships – both at home and at work.
Because whatever we direct our attention towards grows. When we see the best in each other, something changes at the root.
In our close relationships, more warmth, more contact and more safety appear. In our workplaces, trust, collaboration and the courage to contribute grow.
People rarely grow from being corrected. But they grow from being seen.
Choosing where we place our focus
This does not mean closing our eyes to what is difficult. It means choosing where we place our focus – and thereby which direction we reinforce.
When we practise seeing what works, what is good, what is already there … something happens that can feel almost magical:
We begin to meet more of exactly that. In ourselves. And in each other.
We human beings flourish when we feel seen. A kind word, a thank you, or a glance that says "I see you" can make a greater difference than we imagine. When we feel appreciated, our nervous system relaxes. We become less occupied with defending ourselves and more open to contact, collaboration and care.
Appreciation costs nothing, yet it can change everything.
Perhaps that is why the world does not primarily need more people who are right. It needs more people who make others feel valuable. Every time we choose to see the good in another person, we plant a seed.
Or what do you say?
Eva Berlander & Co
